What is Relationship Trauma?

You probably have heard the word “trauma” used in the context of Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), the term that has become a common word in our culture through the years of seeing what our veterans experience from war. When we think of the word "trauma," we may think of the experience of participating in battle, getting hurt in a car accident, being a victim of a violent crime, surviving a natural disaster, etc. These experi
ences are often beyond the scope of what our minds could comprehend, and thus tend to overwhelm our body and mind, making it difficult for us to move on with our lives.

Relationship trauma may not be as obvious to detect as a car accident or a brain injury from a combat, and thus, it can be more challenging to recover from. Relationship trauma is the emotional, psychological, and physical trauma that occurs in the context of relationships, whether it is between parent and child, siblings, partners, friends, or colleagues. When we have experiences where we feel powerless, threatened, forced, and/or unsafe,
we may be left with long-term consequences that affect our body and mind in a profound way.


Especially when we experience these traumatic events over time as a child in relationships with those who are expected to be trustworthy and caring for us, this can impact on the development of our personalities, lifestyles, and beliefs about ourselves and the world in such ways that help us to cope with the impact of these experiences. These coping skills might have helped you to survive the adverse impacts of traumatic events as a child. However, they often do not serve you, as an adult, to achieve the life and relationships you want. Nonetheless, many of us still use the same coping skills that we developed as a child in situations where we are expected to function as a mature adult. Naturally, we fail to get what we want and become confused when the only way we know to find safety, love, and acceptance is not working. 

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Who is it for?

Relationship trauma counseling is for you if you want healthy and satisfying relationships and are ready to work on it by taking it into your own hands. 

Read the sentences below and see if any of them describe you:

  • I got out of an unhealthy relationship, and am wondering why I keep on falling for the “wrong” people.
  • I know I had some difficult experiences (neglect/abuse) growing up, and I am feeling the negative affects of them in my relationships.
  • I have been in abusive relationships in the past and now I want to focus on myself and grow, so I will not be involved in another one in the future. 
  • I think some of my past issues are controlling my present relationships in a negative way.
  • I do not trust my ability to choose the right partner.
  • I know that he/she will leave me once they find out about the "true me." 
  • I decided not to repeat the same mistakes I have made in the past, but am feeling overwhelmed and confused because I am unsure how to go about it.


You cannot change what you have not faced yet. Facing the hard truth in a supportive environment will liberate and empower you.


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How can counseling help you recover from relationship trauma?

Trauma recovery therapy does not aim to erase the wounds or the memories.What happened in your past will remain in the past as a fact. The goal is to face the wounds and learn what impacts they have had on your life, so that they will not control you or interrupt your life anymore.

Counseling can help you to achieve:

  • Understanding why and how you choose unhealthy relationships​
  • Strengthening your relationship with yourself by getting to know yourself and becoming more compassionate for yourself
  • Paying attention to your inner voices and learning to work with them
  • Recognizing your power, while accepting its limitations
  • Learning to set and keep healthy boundaries
  • Learning to let yourself be appropriately vulnerable in a relationship
  • Working through childhood trauma and learning the wisdom it can offer
  • Learning to work with shame and guilt


At Lionheart Therapy, your past mistakes are seen as attempts to cope with adverse circumstances. 
Take the first step now, to learn better coping skills that will support you to create the life you want and deserve.    

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Relationship Trauma Recovery Counseling

Counseling for Empowerment, Trauma Recovery, and Cultural Diversity

Contact us to receive support through hard times, find solutions to problems, and walk toward healing and growth.